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Hey, you took my toy! How building confidence in young children is essential to conflict resolution

4/15/2016

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"Hey, you took my toy!" As teachers and parents, we often hear children scream this phrase, with varying degrees of angst and volume. My primary instinct is often to run to help out that child and to blame the others for their responsibility in either taking the toy or standing by while this conflict unfolds. However, as an educator, I know that if I intervene, it may help in the short term, but it may actually do more harm in the long term. My job is to enable the kids to work together and resolve the conflicts, so that when I'm not around, they become adept at conflict resolution and become guides in conflict management themselves. 
In order to understand conflict--and to truly make a long term positive impact--I need to take a step back and think about the role that confidence plays in this argument.
Confidence (and the lack thereof) is a major determinant in whether this conflict is one that increases in intensity, or if it becomes one that the kids can learn and grow from. The child who screams out does not have confidence that the other child is simply playing a game or is going to return the toy. They may not have confidence in their own ability to play with the toy correctly and most importantly, they don't have confidence in themselves that they know how to handle the situation correctly. That may seem like a lot to ask of a child, but conflict management is a learned skill that can be gained early on in life. However, that child is not the only one who needs to build self-confidence in order to resolve the conflict. The other child involved may have taken the toy for a number of reasons, possibly because they wanted to play with the other child or they specifically wanted to play with the toy. Maybe they have not had much luck with sharing toys in the past and don't have the practice asking to share. They need the opportunity to experience that shared conflict resolution.
As educators, we are guides for our students, and we also need to experience shared conflict resolution so we can make it more natural for our students in the future. There are a few steps that we can take to make sure to build our children's confidence when it comes to conflict resolution:
  1. Plan ahead. Set up the physical setting as a safe place to play, anticipating any obstacles and creating preemptive fixes for them. Play space too small? Do what you can to expand it or remove objects that make it cluttered. 
  2. Clear rules. Create welcoming but structured rules, and get input from the kids as you do.  Is there a really popular toy that leads to arguments often?  Set rules for how to play with it, or time limits on how long each child can play.
  3. Teach. Practice how and when to say excuse me and I'm sorry. If your kids know what to do in a conflict, they can practice saying these words and exploring a resolution when conflicts come up.
  4. Stand by. Don't jump on every conflict that comes up, give the kids time to use the tools you taught. Only intervene if necessary and still then encourage them to resolve it. 
    The more practice the kids have in using their own voice to negotiate conflicts, the greater skills they will have in conflict resolution and confidence in their ability to resolve what comes up.
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Create a character, Be a character

4/4/2016

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by Adam Jacobs

At Kids Creative, kids are in charge of creating characters and determining who they act out on stage. Even if they are playing music or dancing or presenting their work of visual art, their unique thumbprint is part of their presentation. Our kids get to take ownership over their performances because they are the creative force and invested in its success. Each participant gets to create a character in a story, and to the extent that they choose, get to join with their group (their ensemble) to present that character to an audience of friends and family.  
The most amazing part of creating a character in a supportive environment like Kids Creative is that it allows for self expression without the concern of judgement. Through the rule "All Ideas Are Good," imaginative characters are developed in a positive environment. The characters gain life from inside the creative minds. They offer a way for the kids to act and express thoughts and feelings before they are comfortable to express themselves. There is a great deal of emotional security in creating a character in a space where the imagination is welcomed to flourish. You don't need to be especially good at acting or theater to play pretend. Once your imagination can run wild, the rest is learning skills that will propel you forward.  
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